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Why do they take you away from your family when you become a sister?

Troubled and Confused asks:

This question might be kind of odd, but I was wondering why is it that when you become a sister they take you away from your family and barely ever let you see them? I have two older sisters. One entered a convent three years ago August, and another is entering this August. Each left right out of high school, and I will be the last girl in the family. Troubled and confused

Dear Troubled, 

Your question is not at all odd. It stems from the fact that we tend to judge everything as it relates to us personally, and we react to everything according to how it affects us personally. This is much more so when we are younger, and only with time and when we mature and learn to love do we overcome this natural tendency. 

You feel like your sisters have been 'taken away', and 'are not allowed' to visit you. There is the hint here of the thought that since they really love you, somebody must be stopping them from seeing you, not allowing them, for they couldn't possibly really want this themselves.  

It is easy to forget that they have followed their vocation and given themselves to God choosing him freely and exclusively, out of love, even at this price.  

They feel the separation too, yet they have chosen him. And think of your parents - how they must feel it. Yet they have given your sisters at their young age freedom to do what is best for them, what God wants them to do, and they (your parents) didn't try to stop them, thinking only of themselves.  

It is impossible, especially if you come from a good family, not to feel the separation. So what can you do? Say that God is cruel, that some religious orders are cruel? No, what you have to do is ask God to help you enter into a new dimension in your life, where you grow out of seeing everything only as it relates to yourself. That is what growing up means, humanly and spiritually. You have to let your faith help you understand what is happening.  

What are some of the things that your faith tells you about your sisters' vocations? It tells you God has called them. It tells you our time on earth is to do good for others. It tells us that Christ made immense sacrifices to give us eternal life, and if we love him we will offer ourselves to do the same.  

I hope these reflections help you. You will discover others as you bring your thought to Jesus and speak with him after Communion.  

Maybe, too, part of what you feel is the uncertainty of what it will be like to be the only girl, perhaps the only child, at home. Make sure you don't mope around. Get involved in things that interest you, that will help you grow, and where you can help others. Talk this over with your parents.

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