Dear Alex,
From the other answers in this forum you see that our feelings and attractions remain even if we are called to celibacy. Let me give you some further tips.
One, you have to know yourself. For example, if you are the type of person who gets involved with people, takes a personal interest in them, feels for them, etc. you know find it difficult to maintain a certain independence in a friendship. It is good to know this about yourself.
Two, you have to be practical. Certain things, like friendship and attachment between the sexes, come unbidden. They can hamper the recognition of God's call.
Three, the hint that you feel that God might be asking celibacy of you seems to be pretty strong. It is a hunch worth following up on. If you go out with a girl, I suggest that you also find time to be alone with Christ - drop into a church and talk with him a while. Go on a good spiritual retreat that will challenge you.
Four, the importance of point three is: if you get interested in a certain girl more than others you will find yourself declining invitations so as to be more with her. If Christ may be calling you to be celibate you will find yourself having to decline other invitations, because of where your heart is. That is the core of celibacy. God bless.
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