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	Audrey asks: A good friend of mine told me he dreamt he was prostrated in the sanctuary for the Sacrament of Holy Orders. He wants to try the seminary but is afraid. At times he is very keen for marriage too, and is confused. He told me he has asked God for a simple sign and has set a deadline for it. Only God and he knows what the sign is. The moment I heard how he is trying to do to discern his vocation in life, personally, it sounded wrong to me, and he may end up with his mind playing tricks on him. I told him to approach a Spiritual Director to discuss it and he is not in favor of the idea. I am more than worried for him after hearing that he decided to work based on signs. What can I do to help him?
	Dear Audrey, It is very worrisome that your friend has decided to pursue the path of asking God for concrete signs. Jesus himself said, 'an evil and perverse generation looks for signs', and he said this not because he didn't want them to know the truth about him, but because they had already received lots of signs and still wanted more. It is best, I think, to tell your friend that you are afraid he may be blinding himself, closing his eyes to the signs God has already given him. In that case what he is lacking is not signs but the generosity and faith to act on them. Tell him to read the beginning of Chapter 5 in St John, the curing of the man at the pool. When Jesus told him he was cured and to get up, the man had no proof except Jesus' command. He only received the proof when he actually did what Jesus told him, when he actually tried to stand up and found that now he could. It is the same when we feel a vocation: we find out it really is from God when we take steps to follow it. Your friend really needs a spiritual director (and maybe a tough one).


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